My husband and I have been together for over 8 years. The funny thing is he gets messier and messier. In the beginning he would help out with laundry,put his clothes away, and occasionally cook dinner. But times have certainly changed. He often forgets that we have a hamper ,leaves his dirty clothes on the floor by his side of the bed,and leaves swirl marks in the toilet. Gross huh? He also takes his shoes off in the middle of the hallway and leaves them there.I have tripped over them countless times.

I can't recall how many times that I have talken to my girlfriend about these problems and she said that her husband does some of the same things too. So I am thinking as a wife and a strong minded women that we need to stick together and not stand for this. Just because you married us does not mean that we have to clean up after you as if you were our children. We love you dearly but the only poop that we should be cleaning up is our babies,not yours! I know that us women are not perfect and we have flaws too. All I would like you to do is to please think about us. We do alot already. We need to be working as a team because that is what we are.

I think after women cook dinner their significant other should offer to help clean up. This can also be a special time to bond with your partner. When husbands are done going #2 in the bathroom they should also make sure that they don't mark our toilets with their souveniers. If so grabbing a toilet brush only takes one minute. A hamper is a great thing to have. Men please learn where yours are. I keep mine in my bathroom. My husband is slowly but surely learning this. Shoes can also easily be fit inside a closet. You do not have to leave them o n the middle of the floor anymore.

I know that it sounds like we complain a lot but the truth is we just want to feel respected.We are your partner,not your maid. And with your help it makes it much easier on us. Just think "what if we were not around" ?

I think we're all married to the same person! seriously, my man does the toilet turd swirls,

mountains of clothes on the floor, shoe booby traps for me to trip over, and would only clean the

bathtub if his life depended on it! I am so glad to see I am not the only person who goes through

this, but I am duly annoyed. Is it that guys feel cleaning is beneath them? or are they just lazy?

Are you certain you're not married to my husband? That list of pet hates and the length of time it

took to deteriorate mirrors my scenario exactly. I have asked my husband of eight years to 1)

wear deodorant 2) put his used bathtowel on the line, not over the back of the dining chairs, and

as for cleaning the toilet....I do ALL the housework in my house as well as working full time.

The skid mark thing irks me the most, He knows I hate it and there is a toilet brush right next to

the toilet but does he clean up his shit??? NO. I HATE cleaning it up but I hate looking at it

more, it has killed the mystery and sex for me, dead in the water along with those shreds of turd.

I agree that women could also be that way too. I do know that men get a worse reputation than

women do for being slobs. Hopefully your significant other will learn to respect all of the work

you put into your house because it is not easy to maintain a house. Good Luck!

My husband is so nasty. He hates talking a bath and his breath be stinky all the time.

I could really rant on this topic - my honey ended up with maggots in the sink when I went on

vacation. Oh - let's not even talk about the rest of the house. It's amazing that he sometimes

flushes the toilet. I think I'm going neatnik-mad. I fantasize about an austere zen house. A hint to

the rest of you: I bag his stuff & put it in the garage for a month or so, and if he doesn't notice it's

missing, I throw it away. Feels great! I also keep a "paper box" - all of his

mail/magazines/receipts/papers go in it, and when it's full, I date it and put it in the garage. After

a while, I toss those too! Also, I discovered that the fewer dishes I have, the fewer dishes I have

to wash at a time. If I have 20 cups, he will use 20 cups in a day. If I have 4, he only uses 4.

Don't be afraid to throw stuff out - honestly, it's very theraputic, and you won't miss having to

put it away again. Own less = clean less.

Well, sometimes the shoe is on the other foot. I have grown completely exasperated with my

wife. She won't use either a hamper or a garbage can...and after I spend a whole day cleaning the

house, she has it trashed in twenty minutes. It's to the point I'm thinking of leaving. It's

deteriorated each day over the last ten years. I just finished today, cleaning every room in the

house, and it's already a mess, and she's too busy watching TV. It's not that she's a bad

person...far from it. It's the way her mother raised her. Yet men get the rap for being the slobs.