People have four problems with effectively dealing with anger.
They can't admit that they are negatively impacted by anger.

They do not think their kind of anger harms anyone. They do not think it is possible to overcome anger. They don't know how to overcome anger.

Our hope in overcoming anger is found in God.

We can try many methods,but they do not bring real deliverance from anger.

Others speak of anger management not anger solutions.

The Lord, however, wants to give us a new lifestyle of love that does not allow for inner rage. God wants to give us a deeper inner peace.

Step with us through these pages to see how the Lord your Maker and Designer

has made you for greater things than anger.

He wants to fill His people with joy!

 

What bad consequences does anger have? 

We have a very difficult time to admit the evil nature of anger.

Perhaps this is because the spirit of anger is so close at hand!

A review of the consequences of anger can help motivate those with a spirit of anger to get rid of their anger.

Anger or angry is used 433 times in the Bible. Much research can be done on these passages. In what passage did Jesus expose the need to eliminate anger from our lives?

   

  

Anger is unacceptable before God.

We can never accomplish God's ways with anger.

  

James 1:19-20

"This you know, my beloved brethren. But let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God."

• Anger leads to more anger.

If you think ones anger is bad now, it will get worse unless you take a strong course of action.

Proverbs 10:12

" Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all transgressions."

• Anger becomes addictive. Angry people don't simply change.

Proverbs 19:19

" [A man of] great anger shall bear the penalty, For if you rescue [him,] you will only have to do it again."

• Anger leads to hostility and lawsuits.

Anger easily leads to extra expensives and stressful situations that otherwise could have been avoided.

Matthew 5:25

"Make friends quickly with your opponent at law while you are with him on the way, in order that your opponent may not deliver you to the judge, and the judge to the officer, and you be thrown into prison."

• Anger always needs reconciliation.

Anger produces strained relationships which must be solved before we go on in our spiritual lives.

Matthew 5:23

"If therefore you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar, and go your way; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering."

• Anger always needs restoration.

Angry people are constantly hurting people and causing offenses.

Proverbs 14:17

"A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, And a man of evil devices is hated."

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{Answer for above: Matthew 5:23-24}

If you do not enjoy relationships but are tense, mean and critical, there is a good chance that you have an angry spirit. People don't like to be around angry people. It simply follows that if we have an angry and bitter attitude, we will more than likely have problems in our relationships. Ask yourself the following questions?

o When was the last time you lost your temper?

o Did you ever physically hurt someone through your anger?

o What are some of the phrases that you use when angry?

o Have you ever apologized for your anger?

o What relationships are being stressed because of unresolved anger?

The gospel of Jesus Christ is centered around God's love for us and through us. We cannot tolerate anger in our lives. Anger brings physical, emotional and social damages to our lives and others. All these serious consequences point to our need of the gospel of Christ's love.

How shall we speak with an angry person?

What is the best way to speak with

an angry person?

Remember another person often serves as fuel for an angry person.  Don't get engaged in the quarrel.

Focus your concern on the person and situation instead.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1).

for they are unprofitable and worthless. (Titus 3:9).

Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; (Philippians 2:3).

A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, But the slow to anger pacifies contention. (Proverbs 15:18).

Like one who takes a dog by the ears Is he who passes by and meddles with strife not belonging to him. (Proverbs 26:17).

Why is anger so difficult to handle?

God has made it possible that His children can by His grace adopt a gentle and self-controlled spirit rather than an angry one. We should realize, however, that some of these issues often go deeper into the life of the individual.

But now you also, put them all aside:

anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth.

(Colossians 3:8).

Two Kinds of Volcanoes

Slow burning

Smoldering fire

Anger

Anger describes the kind of anger that "slowly burns in your heart." This anger usually slows down to a slow vindictiveness. Often filled with self-pity, this anger is focused toward oneself - until it is released. Unfortunately, because some of the more violent signs are missing, this anger can remain unnoticed for a long time except from those near him who are hurt by his spirit of anger.

Expose Internal Anger.

Hidden sin intensifies until it bears worse fruit.

Ps 32:3-4

"When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away Through my groaning all day long. For day and night Thy hand was heavy upon me; My vitality was drained away as with the fever heat of summer. Selah."

Internalized anger creates secret thoughts and plans of revenge. Many odd and inconsiderate behaviors occur when one is silently angry.

Increased guilt causes greater bursts of anger. Anger is often closely associated with sensual sins. Dreaded physical symptoms are also commonly present.

Fast exploding

Bursting volcano

Wrath

Wrath on the other hand is the sudden outburst of anger. He explodes with anger. Modern English uses "blows up" to describe this far too common scene. This person's anger is directed toward others. Instead of long calculative acts of revenge, he takes it out right there on the spot. Horrible violence results.

Restrain Explosive Anger.

Never best to explode.

Proverbs 29:11

"A fool gives full vent to his anger: but the wise man holding it back quiets it."

Notice the two ways to deal with anger. A fool lets the anger control him. The wise man controls it. We need to share with people the wisdom of holding back the venting of our anger. One way we can do this is show them the foolish results of the way they handle anger. We must discourage people from venting ones anger into a pillow. Although that might be considered a form of control, the anger spirit can be better controlled and eliminated by God's grace.

Explosions of anger usually follow longer periods of silence where anger is hidden away.

The solution to anger is neither of these paths. Once anger has been lodged into our hearts, we and others will be negatively impacted. And in both cases, it isn't the original offender who necessarily gets the brunt of the anger.