Lately the fact that my wife is messy and somewhat lazy is really wearing on me. We have been married 2 years and our room has been over run by her clothes for all but maybe a week of that time total. It gets to be up to a foot deep on her side of the bed and eventually she has stuff all over my side and in the closet, laundry room and garage.

When she gets mail she just opens it all up and leaves it on the table so we can never use it because its full of mail. She doesn't like me getting the mail because I throw the junk away and she wants to look through everything. She always has stuff everywhere in the bathroom and the counter.

Sometimes she doesn't even flush the toilet after number 2's and dirty tampons. She just claims to forget. Most girls would die before letting there husband see that. Ill get home from work and the living room that I just cleaned will be a mess. She lets our ten month old that's walking pull stuff out of everywhere, like all the DVD's and Video games.

She just sits there and zones out on TV half the time. She will never shut the doors all the way to the rooms that we don't want the baby walking into so I constantly have to shut doors behind her (bathroom, laundry room, our messy room).

Just yesterday she cleaned up the room by throwing everything out in the garage in a gigantic hamper she bought so she wouldn't have to do laundry or put it away. Then she wants me to be so proud of her for finally picking up her clothes, even though I know it will be a disaster in a few days again....

All this is just a few examples. I don't even want to get into the new car we bought 5 months ago that's always cluttered inside and she has never washed it even though she promised to. I've washed it 4 times and I don't even drive it.

I have tried talking to her about it, but she doesn't want to talk about it and says its not a big deal to her. It's to the point that I'm always irritated with her and have stopped being as affectionate as I used to be and she complains about it. She says if our marriage doesn't work out it's my fault. I told her why I am irritated all the time, and she thinks I am just ridiculous.

If I ask her to help when I'm picking up, she gives some excuse and says not to tell her what to do, "your not my dad"