I've been feeling a little discouraged cause I've been a single mom for 5 years and although I'm only 21 years old I'm so ready for my husband to come along. But when I look at my church I only see one man in my church who is eligible but he's definitely not my type because of some things GOD has revealed to me. How do you get out there and socialize with other single Christians? Do you have any suggestions?

I understand just how you feel. I was where you are, and please don't be offended by what I am about to say. I came to realize that looking for single guys at church was a BAD idea. It distracted me from getting the message the pastor was teaching. I am now 38. If you are always wondering who is single, while at church, you won't build the relationship the Lord is calling you to build.

I know this is hard when you are lonely, but serve God first, then in God's timing he will bring a man into your life (if it is his will). He may be a man from your church, or a different church. The important thing isn't what church he goes to (although that should be discussed), but his relationship with the Lord.

Not all church goers are Christians. At 21 I was also a single mom, there were no single men in my church. God had me move across the United States. Low and behold, I found unexpectedly a Single Christian man, while at the grocery store. Then we started looking for a church together. I don't know what God will do for you, but he has his ways and they are great. Put your trust in him.

Praise the Lord in all things Tynika! I know that is hard, but do it. I have a suggestion, the Bible says Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you. You may be focused on the wrong thing. I love the mind of God, and His word says "that a single woman is to have her affections towards the Lord and how to please Him. (God never makes any mistakes)

I hope that this is not offensive, because I agree with the suggestion of the contributor above. Cconcentrate on your relationship further with Jesus Christ our Lord. Allow for Him to mold you into the women of God that He desires you to be. Be faithful and Holy for the Lord. Let God create you and present you as a chase Bride to Christ; a virtuous women.

As you begin to grow and become strong in the Lord, rooted and grounded in the Faith, you won't have to look for a husband, he'll find you!!! The Bible says that when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord. Get together with one of the elders (female) of the Church, partner up with her in prayer, and when you become weak, distracted, or discouraged, the two of you can take it to God in prayer.

I would suggest that you also stay under your spiritual covering, and be obedient to your spiritual leader the one that has to give an account to God for your soul. I can see you are taking your time when it comes to dating, because you don't want to expose your daughter to any dangers. May the love of God keep you as the apple of His Eye.

I think I understand what you are trying to say: You would like to be married to a good Christian man but your pickins are slim in your local church.

I remember when I was in my early 20's married church ladies would tell me that "my fleshly desire" was the only reason I wanted to be married and I should be ashamed of myself.

UH HELLO! These where married women with husbands at home. Their "fleshly desire" was well fed thank you very much, and in the morning they had someone to talk to, to support them during life's trails and someone to watch reality T.V. with. Wanting a romantic companion is a natural desire and in good conscience I can't tell you to stop looking when I have a Christian husband at home.

However I do agree with the other ladies that spending time in church scoping out the single men will distract you from listening to Gods word. I'll suggest that you not worry about it and expand your horizons. I don't mean date "worldly men" but learn what other Christian singles do in your area and join those events. For example, Christian single socials with churches or bible study for singles, that sort of thing.

Even if you do not meet your love match you will meet new friends and get support from other singles in your same situation. Another thing you can do is go on the Internet and seek out a parents without partners group for support. Stay with your rule to only date Christian guys. E-harmony and Christian Singles is a possible answer on the Internet. May God bless you and comfort you.

Hi Tynika,

I was a single mom for many years and am now married to an amazing Christian man. The truth is that I did not look for him either but I do understand the feeling of wanting someone in your life. My main focus was being a godly woman and a great mom. I was involved in so many activities with my church such as single mom ministry, bible studies and evangelism that I didn't have much time to think about what I was missing.

I was also actively involved in my children's school activities so I built some amazing relationships with other single moms. We baby sat for each other, took turns cooking dinner and ate as a family unit. I actually didn't have time for him, every time he called me and asked me out I had other obligations which I think may have left him wondering.

I would say, "run after being a woman after God's heart, a great mom and involve yourself in service to others". God will give you the desires of your heart. He may not be in your current church, but God is not out of control and his timing is perfect.

I prayed for God to find me a decent man unlike all the other carnal guys who wanted to date me. God already has a mate picked out for you, and he will bring you two together in his timing Just keep praying and he will come into your life when the time is right,.... God eventually got me together with my husband, and i am so blessed.

Our church has the opposite. We have 3 single men in our Church & no single women in their age bracket. They are all believing & trusting God to bring them wives. Our young adults girls are all believing for God to bring in husbands for them. They are trusting and not running out to help God.

They are just "being still & knowing that He is God" Ps 46:10